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Caroline Beuley's avatar

I couldn’t agree more! I think one of the key aspects of having higher expectations is to truly be ok being alone

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Irma Sophia's avatar

Love this! I have also experienced this, and yes if he wanted to he would is 100% true!

I my opinion ( which might not be a popular one) I feel as though because women are becoming stronger, “we can do it ourselves, I don’t need a man, if he pays for me it’s old fashioned and too 1950’s, give us freedom “ etc. it has not helped those who want to be wined and dined, which I am finding out are a lot more then I thought! ( glad to not be alone!) but how do we fix that? Yeah I have no clue.. I suppose it’s a mix of looking for better men and being your own hype person, setting standards and not feeling bad for having a $hit ton of self respect.

Just my 2 cents :)

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Sasha's avatar

Unfortunately, there's no easy solution to the lack of chivalry - but I couldn't agree more! I guess it can be super conflicting for men, but then again, surely they can put two cents together?

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Imi Giddins's avatar

my theory is men have always been like this but women needed them for things like credit cards and a roof over their head, and in turn men never had to develop personalities or ambition or multitasking capabilities - now women can do that all on their own and we're all like...wtf is this (the male species)!

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Sasha's avatar

2025 should be year that men develop a desirable personality

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cj_in_denial's avatar

Im sorry this comes off as so generalized. Have you ever met a man? I am friends with different people of different races and ages and genders and i can confirm that everyone has a personality and ambition. Sometimes its different from yours, and sometimes you attract what you are.

Idk i just didnt like this comment

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Imi Giddins's avatar

That's ok we can agree to disagree xo

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Gabi de Ferrer's avatar

RIP chivalry 🕊️ 🕊️ 🕊️

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Sasha's avatar

Forever in our thoughts 😇

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Courtney Holmes's avatar

We would all sound pathetic for what we w commend as “effort”, if it weren’t so heartbreaking that we hold out so much hope. Loved reading this xx

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Sasha's avatar

Agreed!! Thank you ❤️❤️

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Paige henry's avatar

It’s tough out here. Where are all the lover boys?

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Sasha's avatar

Not in London, that's for sure!

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Blake Romo's avatar

(Meanwhile, men facing reality...)

"God damn it an entire generation pumping gas, waiting tables; slaves with white collars. Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don't need. We're the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. Our Great War is a spiritual war. Our Great Depression is our lives. We've all been raised on television to believe that one day we'd all be millionaires and movie gods and rock stars. But we won't. And we're slowly learning that fact. And we're very very pissed off."

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Cam Zhang's avatar

i used to CONSTANTLY settle and experience the worse bs of my life with m*n and it's only when i realized someone needs to truly ADD to my peace and not take away from it did i find a good good man!! they do exist, we just have to be so in love with ourselves that we only accept when someone loves us even more than that somehow

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Valcoeur's avatar

You get what you desire in this life

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